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Letters On
Musicianship & Mindset

Once or twice a week, I share my best tips on overcoming performance anxiety and self-doubt for a fulfilling career. Occasionally I also send out some gifts and let you know if I am working on something that might be of interest to you.
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The Joyful Musician Blog
This Story Hijacked How We Practice Music 🪄
Remember when fantasy stories made it feel like magic could happen to anyone? An old book, a glowing key, a hidden doorway… and suddenly an ordinary person was changed forever. Somewhere along the way, that narrative shifted — and not just in books. The same quiet shift crept into how we see music, talent, and ourselves. What if the story you’ve been told about who gets to be “special” isn’t the truth at all?
3 days ago2 min read
What a Britain’s Got Talent Singer Can Teach Musicians About Courage 🎙️
After 19 years of trying, singer Max Fox begged Simon Cowell for a chance — and got it. His story is a reminder that courage, not luck, carries musicians forward. Here’s why every performer needs a guide to steady the nerves and take their shot when it matters most.
Aug 212 min read
Can You Stay Calm with a Famous Conductor Watching Your Every Note? 🫣
She spotted him in the front row. Her chest tightened, her thoughts scattered, and the weight of the moment felt crushing... but this concert changed how she approaches every performance — and it’s something you can learn too.
Aug 112 min read
I Was Told Not to Do This — And I Did It Anyway 🫢
Everyone told me it wasn’t a real thing. That musicians wouldn’t pay for it. That it wasn’t what “serious” professionals did. But after years of watching talented performers unravel under pressure—and knowing exactly how that feels—I chose to do it anyway. Here’s why I left traditional music teaching to become a performance and confidence coach for musicians... and why I’ve never looked back.
Aug 52 min read
Why Most Musicians Can’t Stop Scrolling — And What That Says About You 📱
What if your endless scrolling isn’t just a bad habit — but a sign of something deeper? In this post, I share a surprising study and a little personal story that reveals why stillness feels so hard for so many musicians. If you’ve ever reached for your phone without thinking, you’ll want to read this. This will change how you approach rest, focus, and confidence in your music career.
Jul 212 min read


The One Creative Privilege Only Musicians Really Get 🎼
Most artists never get to experience their work the way musicians do. Here’s why making music is a rare, real-time creative privilege — and why it matters.
Jul 172 min read


Back to the Stage After 22 Years: The Audition He Didn’t Cancel
After years of sidelining his voice, a classically trained tenor facing burnout, shame, and crippling performance anxiety did something quietly radical: He showed up to his first audition. Not to impress, but to reclaim. This is the story of the audition he didn’t cancel — and the slow, brave return to a life shaped by presence, not perfection.
Jun 45 min read
That One Audition You Still Think About? ⌛️
A decade-old ballet injury still flares up when I push too far. Strange how one reckless moment can linger for years. But here’s the thing — I see the same thing in musicians all the time. Not physical pain, but something else. Something quieter… and harder to spot.
May 292 min read
A Narcissistic Industry 🎩
If you’re a heart-led musician who's ever been called too sensitive, too emotional, or too much... and you've been burned by the industry or those in power — the problem may not be you. Let’s talk about it.
May 152 min read
Buffy Lied: A Lesson From Vampires 🧛
I found a game called Vampire Therapist — sounds ridiculous, right? Ancient, powerful vampires… in therapy for imposter syndrome. At first I laughed. Then I realised: I’ve met people like this. Not vampires — but musicians at the top of their game, still haunted by doubt. This reminded me of one singer in particular…
May 82 min read
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